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Articles
Releasing Grief and
Moving Forward
by Karen
Johnson
Copyright © 2008
In our life we will experience some
ordinary and extraordinary losses. Be it material things, people or loved
ones, even a job loss: we all have and will continue to experiences of
loss and grieving. How we approach these losses, whether they feel
insignificant or seemingly insurmountable, is key to our own development and
evolution. Inside of us there is a piece that desperately wants to hold
onto the energy of what was lost, but we know that it is rare to find it in the
same form again.
Releasing this energy does not mean
you will be abandoned by it, but that you are releasing it to allow it to take
its new shape and form, and permit you to move forward in whatever way is
appropriate in accordance with universal law.
We need to discover new ways of
holding onto the energy produced by our loss, while yet releasing this same energy
so it is not chained to you but stays with you and within you of its own accord
and also moves in accordance with the universal laws that have been set out.
What we force or impose our will upon
will not stay willingly with us. What we welcome and embrace and allow to
take its own shape and form will stay freely.
CHANGE THROUGH LOSS
Life may feel like it has lost its luster when we are viewing it through the
depths of our grief and our own grieving process. We may feel extreme
sadness, a loss of vitality or a lack of focus. It's important to
understand that some of this is merely a momentary pause in life.
Sometimes, along with whatever
emotions we may be feeling, come instances of great clarity, focus, determination
and love. We must be willing to allow ourselves to balance out these two
polarities (love versus loss). This will help us stand firm and
strong through the winds of change which are about to sweep down and through our
life: with any transformation, loss or grief can come monumental change.
It is almost as if the loss creates a
vortex in which change will seep through whether we want it or not. If we
step back, catch our breath and re-direct our focus from the emotions that the
pain of this loss has created, we find that a space is opening up for
transformational change to creep into our world.
It is unfortunate that we frequently
need to lose something, sometimes something so dear to us, in order for this
change and often rapid change to wrap itself around our lives in a positive way.
Remember to befriend this change and not to be wary of it, for the more that you
can welcome, embrace and step in tune with this change, the higher and the
stronger the notes of harmony will surround your life.
CHANNELS OF RELEASE
There are many transformational vehicles that this loss or expression of grief
can come in on. It is not always the size of the loss but actually how
meaningful it is to you. A loss of a friend or someone you love brings
with it many ripples into your life. For some, loss of position or job can
greatly affect their security and their sense of who they are as an individual,
and this in turn creates a huge sense of grief... anything from a loss of
security, community, identity... Their sense of who they are in the world
has now profoundly changed.
In going through the grieving process
and journeying beyond the pain of that loss, it is key to find focus and meaning
in moving forward. This can come in waves of emotions or feelings that
must be experienced and released in whatever manner is right for the individual.
Some can process it alone but for the vast majority there is a need to reach out
to others to help you through this process, be it friends or loved ones or even
professional caregivers.
The important piece is not to
withdraw into an inner world where you end up recycling and reliving old
scenarios over and over instead of allowing the energy to move through its
natural course of waves, high and low, which allows the natural healing process
to take place and assists you to begin opening up to what transpires next.
It is a very organic process not a
linear one; and you must allow the process to run its gamut in however much time
is needed. A love, forgiveness and acceptance element seem to be a
predominant piece in this turn of events.
GAINING FROM WHAT IS LOST
Can we actually gain from what is lost?
As you work through the pain there is
much to garner. Grief opens a gate into a new world... and that's scary.
In the midst of our grief it is hard
to fathom that there is anything to be gained from loss. That is quite
untrue, with any loss comes many hidden jewels: some a little more
abstract than others. Each time we learn a little more about ourselves and
how we live, love and generally experience the world. Sometimes this
knowledge is welcome and at others not, but it is always evocative and
definitely insightful. You see, each time we get to peek a little deeper
into our souls.
There is a time for endings.
There is an expansive knowingness in recognizing endings as openings to new
beginnings. We have great difficulty in knowing when and how to allow
things to end... allowing new beginnings to flourish and grow.
We end where we begin.
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This article was
originally written by Karen Johnson for:
The
Meta Arts Magazine,
New York, February
2008
©
2008 Karen
Johnson, CHt. MHt. All rights reserved in all media.
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Karen Johnson
is an internationally renowned
expert in the field of Human Potential Development an area where she
has been a leader for the past decade. A well known Energy
Medicine Practitioner, Master Hypnotherapist, Spiritual and
Metaphysical Healer and Author.
She also runs an international
Intuition Consultant business: consulting and mentoring for
individuals and small businesses.
She can be reached at 416.466.6225 or
www.awakeningheartandsoul.com. |
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